No Negative Self-Talk!
No Negative Self-Talk!
It’s something I see at the tarot table every day. Good people who are kind to everyone, who work hard and do their best, often don’t see themselves in a positive light. Folks who have nothing but kind words for their friends say things to themselves, about themselves, that they wouldn’t say to their worst enemy, let alone their friends or family members.
Sometimes negative self-talk focuses on physical appearance. Other times it comes from regrets; things that we wish we had done better or differently. Sometimes it seems that negative self-talk comes from a sense of false modesty where people put themselves down to avoid feeling egotistical.
No one likes a braggart. Celebrities and politicians can get away with boasting. The rest of us know how distasteful it is to spend time with someone who is their own biggest fan. Yet, internally, we all need to be fans of ourselves.
Negative self-talk is dangerous because, when we speak badly about ourselves, there is a part of us who believes the bad press. This can limit our success in the workplace, in relationships and in developing healthy self-esteem.
None of us is perfect. It is important to have enough self-awareness to be able to see our flaws and work toward healing and self-improvement. We all have room for growth.
Yet, we see the flaws of the people we love, and we love them, nonetheless. We need to be able to do the same for ourselves.
When we speak with people, we highlight their accomplishments, not their failures. We need to be able to do the same for ourselves.
We desire love, approval and respect from others. It’s harder to get those things from those around us if we can’t or won’t give those things to ourselves.
The next time you catch yourself saying something mean to yourself, apologize to yourself, and follow ups by saying something nice!
Three In-Person Tarot Classes
Over the next few weeks I will be teaching in-person tarot classes in three locations.
Tonight, I am teaching a class on reading tarot for yourself in my Palm City office. There may still be seats available, call 561-655-1160 if you would like to attend.
On Thursday, May 30th, from 7pm to 9pm, I will be teaching “Working with the Tarot Court” at Dream Angels in Tequesta.
In this class you will learn a variety of ways to interpret the sixteen Court cards when they appear and find all the possible messages within them.
For more information, and to get the discount for a prepaid class, visit Dream Angels online.
On Sunday, June 16 from 7 pm to 9 pm I will be teaching “Numbers, Elements and Truth: The Minor Arcana of Tarot” at True Bikram Yoga in Madison, CT. This class is appropriate for anyone with an interest in tarot, from the merely curious to the adept.
I hope to see you soon at a class near you!
Use Tarot as a Mirror
While sometimes it can be difficult to use tarot to make predictions for ourselves because we are so close to the situation, it is easy and helpful to use tarot as a mirror in self-reflection.
When we know we have made a mistake, we can ask the cards questions such as, “What did I learn from this?” and “What can be my next step to fix this?”
Sometimes it’s helpful just to ask the cards, “Who am I today?” and pull a single card on which to reflect.
When we are feeling down about ourselves, tarot can be a best friend that reminds us of our most positive qualities. Simply ask, “What are some of my best qualities?” and pull a few cards.
In reading for others, these techniques can help us guide a person away from their own negative self-talk, and toward a practice of seeing themselves in a more positive light.
In reading for ourselves, this these techniques can build a great tarot practice as well as healthy self-esteem.
Book Now for my June Northeastern Tarot Tour
It’s almost time for my June Northeastern Tarot Tour, June 12 through 25. Once again, I will be available for readings at True Bikram Yoga in Madison, Connecticut. I am also available for parties and house calls in Connecticut, Massachusetts and Rhode Island. I will be teaching a tarot class on June 16th in Madison, and a chakra healing class on June 23rd in New Haven.
Please call or text 562-655-1160, or email me, to schedule your time with me, to book your party, or to get more information about classes.
Since I will be teaching tarot during my Connecticut trips I have started The Connecticut Tarot Study Group on Meetup.com for my Connecticut friends. Please join if you are interested in tarot and live in New England.
I will look forward to seeing my Northeastern friends this June.
The Week in Review
This week I shared an in-depth review of The Moonchild Tarot, both written and video. I featured a card from this lovely deck in the “Cards for Your Consideration” article this week.
If you missed Global Tarot Circle last week, you can watch the replay on YouTube.
On YouTube, you can also see my three-card reading for the week. I was surprised by the intensity of this reading!
From Around the Web
Very often misplaced feelings of guilt hinder our self-esteem, and very often those feelings are rooted in a misunderstanding of spirituality. Here’s an interesting piece based on a study from the University of Chicago. So often we look to religion to give us our moral compass. Yet, so often this can backfire, as we see in this Patheos post.
Do you have a Card of the Day tarot practice? Here’s information on how and why to do it!
Teen Vogue was talking about Tarot last December, and how tarot can be helpful in fostering mental health.
Cards for Your Consideration
This week I am happy to share for your consideration the High Priestess from The Moonchild Tarot by Danielle Noel (image used with permission).
While keywords for the High Priestess included wisdom, balance, serenity, womanhood, meditation, secrets and the subconscious, there is a more mundane interpretation of this card that I want to focus on here, in keeping with our topic for the week.
Very often, in a reading, the High Priestess can indicate a sense of perfectionism. Having a high standard of excellence isn’t a bad thing. Often this card shows up for nurses and hairstylists; people who need to be perfect in the work they do, or we all suffer unfortunate consequences.
Yet, the High Priestess, when ill-dignified, can indicate a sense of guilt, or feeling badly about oneself. When people speak of themselves or think of themselves in a disrespectful way, the High Priestess can sometimes let us know this is happening.
The energy of the High Priestess is something we can use as a remedy for this as well. We can meditate with this image, and, with it, find a sense of internal peace, gratitude and self-love.
Tarot Topics Newsletter
Volume 2 Issue 21
May 22, 2019