The Ties That Bind
The Ties That Bind
Understanding the Energy of Relationships
When I was a child attending church, we used to sing a hymn called, “Blessed Be the Ties That Bind.” It was all about the importance of spiritual fellowship, and it was one of my favorites.
I still believe that the fellowship we share with kindred minds is sacred and important.
As my understanding of energy grew, I learned about the way people connect, and are connected, with one another on an energetic level.
We call those energetic connections ‘cords’. We say that we are ‘corded’ to our family members. When we meet someone with whom we feel an instant kinship and connection, it may be we have karmic ties to them, or are corded to them.
There is a belief that we come into this lifetime with certain karmic connections to others. These connections can provide both the most profound relationships, and also sometimes the most bitter.
I often tell my clients that a karmic connection, or a family connection, does not necessitate or require our participation if that connection isn’t healthy.
Of all my thousands of blog posts written over the past ten years, one of the most popular is my post on how to perform a cord-cutting ceremony. Most of us have experienced the difficulty of needing to get away from an unhealthy relationship even though we feel a strong connection to that person.
There are also energetic ‘hooks’. This happens when people, either consciously or subconsciously, use their energy to keep us connected to them, even when we want or need to leave.
Of course, people do this on a verbal level as well, often using guilt and manipulation to cause us to do what they want us to do. When this happens on an energetic level as well it becomes even more difficult to have the right boundaries.
The energy that binds us to our loved ones is indeed blessed. Our healthy human connections provide the greatest joys in life.
Yet, our unhealthy connections provide us with some of the deepest traumas and pain in life.
In intuitive work such as healing and psychic reading, we consciously make energetic connections with each other to increase wellbeing and discover insight. At the end of the session, we remove those connections.
The more we become aware of how our energy works, and how we energetically connect with others, the more we can maximize the relationships that bring us joy and release the relationships that hurt us.
Magic with the Major Arcana Class in Palm City
Join us on Sunday, October 13, 4 pm to 6 pm, for Magic with the Major Arcana!
This will be the very last class in my conference room at 1025 SW Martin Downs Blvd, Suite 203, Palm City FL 34990 before I move to now new office on SW Corporate Parkway.
This magical, mystical journey through the Major Arcana of tarot is just in time for Halloween!
We can use tarot to gain insight and information. We can also use tarot to help us make changes in our lives and manifest our desires.
The twenty-two cards of the Major Arcana contain the “Greater Secrets” of tarot and can be used as a complete divination tool.
In this class, students will learn to interpret the Major Arcana cards in a reading, perform readings with the Major Arcana cards, and use the Major Arcana cards in meditation and manifestation.
This class is appropriate for beginning tarotists as it presents these important cards in an understandable way. Experienced readers will learn deeper meanings and uses for the Major Arcana to add to their tarot practice.
Bring your tarot deck to the class. New tarot decks will be available for purchase.
Class fee is $37.50. Tickets are limited. Get your ticket now!
Tarot for Relationship Readings
A good tarot reading can often let you know if you should keep trying to make a relationship work, or if it is time to cut the cord.
Making the decision to walk away can be difficult, especially if you feel corded to someone, or if it’s a family relationship where the cords have grown over a lifetime.
A good tarot reading can also give you strategies for communication and boundary-setting to make a relationship work better.
To try to figure out whether it’s time to stay and try or turn and run, I ask a series of questions of the cards. For each question I pull one card. Then, if I need more information, I pull a few more; as many as it takes to tell the story.
Here are some of the questions I ask.
Why is this person behaving the way they are?
Why do I feel so connected to this person?
What is the best this relationship can be?
Is there a way to be healthy and be in a relationship with this person?
How can I better communicate with this person?
What is the worst this relationship can be?
What will my life be like if I cut cords with this person?
What will my life be like if I try to make this work?
Obviously, some of these questions are appropriate for romantic relationships, some of them are better for familial relationships.
One thing I like to remember is this. If a relationship is really unhealthy, It’s often best to walk away. Even if you cut cords, if there is something there of value, you will have the opportunity to try again in the future. If you do a cord-cutting ceremony and still feel drawn to the person, you may need to do the ceremony numerous times. Make sure that your behaviors match your intentions of staying away from the person, even if that’s hard to do.
If it feels like the best path is to try to make something work, honor the cords that tie you together, and work on making the necessary improvements.
The Week in Review
This week I shared a sneak peek of an interesting new indie tarot deck.
Each Monday, wherever in the world I happen to be, I do a Three-Card Weekly Reading on Facebook Live, and share the archive on my Facebook business page and my YouTube channel. If you missed it this week, check out the archive.
From Around the Web
Have you ever wondered how to read a Marseille Tarot Deck? This blogpost offers some great information!
Lean how to use tarot to set a daily intention with Angelorum!
Many of you probably know that Carl Jung was a huge proponent of tarot. Here is a blogpost about the value he found there.
My New Palm City Office
On November 1, 2019, Card and Craft, Inc. will move to a lovely, larger office in Palm City. Our new address will be 3559 SW Corporate Parkway, Palm City, 34990. The new location is off Martin Downs Blvd., and a bit closer to both I-95 and Florida’s Turnpike.
We are located in the Parkway Plaza, near Coquina Cove.
This new location will offer greater comfort for readings and instruction, and more space for classes and events. Watch this newsletter to see a schedule of great events.
Remember, if you make an appointment to see me after November 1, you will be coming to my new location!
Cards for Your Consideration
There are so many cards that can speak of relationship issues and the need to cut cords. For example, the Four of Pentacles can express the need for boundaries. The Six of Cups can speak of how compelling a connection from the past is, be it family or friend, even if the connection can’t create a happy future.
The Two of Swords can speak of that brutal decision-making process that must be done with the head, rather than the heart.
The Seven of Wands may speak of a defense attitude. Perhaps you cannot communicate with someone because they are being defensive. Or, this card may suggest that you, yourself, should take a more defensive stance against another’s abusive energy.
So often, when thinking of relationships, we think only of the cards that obviously speak to romance or family. Truly, any card can describe energy or advice as related to a relationship.
We make a mistake when we think of only the obvious cards to describe a relationship. When we interpret each card in context, we can always receive information that helps us understand our relationships better.
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Volume 2 Issue 40
October 2, 2019